Have you been wronged by somebody? How did you feel about it? What did you do? Yes, I know it is difficult when you are wronged, especially when you have evidence that “they” are wrong. To show grace in the face of unjust treatment, might be difficult but what God wants us to do.
Grace is free, but it makes its demands. God sees not only what we are but what we may become by His forgiving grace.
Saul wanted to kill David out of jealousy and followed David to the caves of En Geddi (1 Samuel 24). David saw Saul coming into the cave, where David was in. David had the chance to kill the one who wants to kill him. David’s reactions give us an idea what to do when we are wronged…
Use the Word of God as measure: David’s men insisted that God had arranged the circumstances so that David might kill Saul in the cave (1 Samuel 24:4). Nowhere did God said that to David, but the soldiers of David inferred that. It is important that we always test circumstances and what people say by the Word of God.
Don’t compromise your moral standards: The means we use to accomplish a goal are just as important as the goal we are trying to accomplish. David’s goal was to become king, so when the men urged him to kill Saul, David did not compromise his moral standards by giving in to pressure taking the easy way out.
Tell the truth (uncover lies) with grace: Saul’s men had been lying about David and telling Saul that David was trying to slay him. David explained that Saul was listening to lies and that he could have lost his life in the cave but for David’s kindness (1 Samuel 24:9–11).
Respect your opposer and authority: So tender was David’s heart that he repented openly of his rash deed of cutting Saul’s robe; for he had not shown proper respect for the Lord’s anointed. David, “a man after God’s own heart,” was willing for God to take care of Saul. Although Saul was sinning and rebelling against God, David still respected the position Saul held as God’s anointed king. We may not like it, but we are to respect the authority figures God placed over us, except if that person(s) pressure us to violate God’s Word.
Show grace in the face of phoniness: Picture the pitiful Saul as he stands before one(David) who is his better. Saul’s weeping and his admission of guilt were but shallow, passing emotions; they did not really come from his heart. He was only too glad to acknowledge David’s kindness. Show grace though your opposer shows signs of insincerity.
Honour your promises to your opposer: David kept his promises to Saul and even vindicated Saul’s honor after Saul’s death. This beautifully illustrates Christ’s words in Matthew 5:10–12. “Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”
Show kindness and grace instead of wrath: For David to show kindness to Saul, and to pray for him, was a greater victory than to overcome the Philistines. We can be sure, if we obey the Lord, that He will take care of our enemies for us in His good time.
Trust the Lord with the situation: David said to Saul: “The Lord will fight my battles and plead my cause.” This is an illustration of grace and trust in the Lord. In situations where somebody gossip about you or worked against you, show grace.
Romans 12:19–21 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.