It is not always easy to know what to do in all circumstances. What I normally do is to ask somebody’s counsel who is wise and I can trust, who have been already where I want to go. In short I love to have a mentor who can help me in life.
David had a wise counsellor/mentor who he constantly asked for counsel, Ahithophel. The books of 1 and 2 Samuel show that consulting Ahithophel was like inquiring of the Lord. Whenever David decided upon a course of action he “inquired of the LORD” (1 Sam 23:4), and he also sought the advice of Ahithophel.
Absalom wiggled himself into kingship pushing king David (his dad) away. Ahithophel sided with Absalom and gave his advice to Absalom, though in 2 Samuel 17:1-14 it is clear that Absalom rejected the counsel.
Given the skill and the reputation of Ahithophel, it comes as a shock to see his advice rejected in 2 Samuel 17:1–14. Ahithophel recommends that Absalom pursue David immediately, before he has a chance to escape very far or to organize his forces. If he would kill David quickly, then David’s supporters would likely pay allegiance to Absalom and the nation would not be divided by a long and bloody civil war. It is a good plan, but Hushai (also a counsellor but planted by David in Absalom’s court) tries to buy time for David by pointing out the fallacies in Ahithophel’s suggestion. He refers to David’s reputation as a fighter and warns that he will not be captured so easily. Appealing to Absalom’s ego, Hushai urges him to gather a huge army and make sure that he can defeat David’s men. Absalom was caught in the middle of different plans of different counsellors – 2 Samuel 18:15.
Our world needs wise counsellors/mentors. Everyone needs somebody who qualifies to be a trusted mentor.
I once developed a course in “mentorship” for pastors in persecuted countries and led to the nurture of many spiritual leaders and discipleship plans for many small “underground churches.”
Spiritual mentoring can be defined as “A triadic relationship, between a spiritual mentor, spiritual mentoree and the Holy Spirit, where the spiritual mentoree can discover, through the already present action of God, intimacy with God, ultimate identity as a child of God and a unique voice for kingdom responsibility” (Spiritual Mentoring by Keith R. Anderson and Randy D. Reese, 1999).
Spiritual mentorship is a relationship with somebody who you believe in; enjoy spending some time with; and you want him/her to reach his/her full potential.
A spiritual mentor is a person who helps the mentoree with a dedicated relationship, to focus on the mentoree’s character development, to reach the mentoree’s God given potential. A mentor creates a hospitable space of trust; discern the already present action of God in the mentoree/protégé; see potential in people; has an experience of spirituality which is affirmed by others for having a life worthy of emulation; the mentor is a person who seeks to live a life of authentic holiness, has spiritual maturity, biblical knowledge, and wisdom.
To have a spiritual mentor has its advantages: it ensures ongoing growth and change; the protégé has a role model to follow; the mentor motivates and encourages the protégé; holds the protégé accountable; and the protégé influences other through his/her life.
There are so many things to say about mentoring. Tomorrow we will look into the characteristics a mentor should have.
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