You always wanted to make a difference in life. When you do make a difference, it will attract others. Difference-makers focus on what he/she can do to enable others and don’t focus on themselves. There is a subtle difference in mindset, but it makes a big difference in the way they operate.
Sometimes because of your effort, pouring into people’s lives, people you helped start to excel. It can cause you to become proud and self-centered. Isn’t this the exact opposite where you started off? It is so easy to feel a sense of personal accomplishment. It is easy to confuse their success as your accomplishment. In a sense it is, but it is the attitude behind this that makes it dangerous. The line between confidence and pride is a thin one.
This is precisely what David experienced in 2 Samuel 24. The people’s accomplishments became his. He became proud, conceited and put his faith in the size of his army and not in God alone.
Rather than becoming proud, great people:
- Resist the temptation to take credit for what they did for others,
- They base their confidence on their own God-given talents, self-discipline, integrity, and competence.
- They don’t need to take confidence away from others to prove themselves.
- They are secure.
- Their effort speaks for itself. In fact, they are humble.
- They have no need for self-glorification.
- They focus on the people they lead or help, their employees, children, constituents, members, etc., not themselves.
Pride can bury itself in your subconscious and sabotage you. Pride will permeate your thoughts, words, and actions. Without no straightforward intentions, you may come across as arrogant, conceited, and selfish. These are not qualities that endear people to you. These are not what you intended to do in the first place.
What will keep you grounded?
- Pray and ask God to show you how to focus on glorifying Him, rather than yourself.
- Get feedback from those who know you well to give you their candid and constructive feedback. Ask if your style, tone, or content has any arrogance to it. Be accessible and open for people to share their thoughts with you without fear of reprisal.
- Look at your motives, why are you doing what you do. Is it about others or yourself? What are your true motives?
- Look at your priorities, stick to them. Don’t get sidetracked, focus on helping and enabling others. Stick to your responsibilities and be faithful in it, and don’t look at the add-on values of praise etc.
- Don’t depend on the perceptions of others for your self-confidence – do what you and do it as for God. Trust God and look to Him for approval. To look for the approval of people, you will be on a constant roller coaster ride. Your mood and self-esteem will constantly go up and down by no cause of your own
- Rather be thankful for the accomplishments of those you helped than taking credit for it yourself. Focus on the people around you and the benefits to them. It is about them, the results, the team, and the value-add itself. It is not about what you did. Be careful about using the “I” word, especially when it should be the “we” word.