Becoming Better or Bitter

Job 21:25  “Some people have no happiness at all: they live and die with bitter hearts.”

You have to decide when you go through a tragedy or crisis, “Am I going to allow this to make me a bitter person, or better person?” But you can’t have both, you have to make a choice.  The choice to be bitter will hurt you. It will take away your joy, because you can’t be joyous and bitter at the same time.

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Some make the choice to pull themselves together and do something about it.  Others fall into bitterness and anger, and look for somebody to blame.  Joy is a choice.  You will be as joyous midst a crisis as you choose to be.

Many people have every right in the world to whine and didn’t.  Many had tragedies but still maintained a positive attitude.  Others made the choice to be miserable though not a lot went wrong.  It is a choice.

Make the choice and refuse to be bitter, because bitterness always hurts you the most.

Hebrews 12:15 “Watch out that no bitterness takes root among you.”  It causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives.  

Bitterness or blaming never changes anything, but it makes you feel worse.  It seems as if it is human nature to blame God when something goes wrong.  Even insurance companies blame God for natural disasters they call it an “act of God.”

How do you keep from being bitter when the inevitable tragedies of life came your way?

  • Accept what cannot be changed.  Job 21:25 says “Reach out to God, then face the world again firm and courageous.”  To have faith is not pretending everything is great in your life.  Faith is facing the facts and not getting discouraged. It’s not pretending everything’s great.  Everything is not great.  There are bad things in the world. And bad things do happen to good people, but faith is facing the facts without getting discouraged.  You see most of the time there is very little in life that you can control.  In fact, the most important things in life you can’t control. The only way to overcome some problems in life is to accept them, and to get on.  Your past is gone, it can’t continue to hurt you unless you allow it to.
  • Focus on what is left, not what is lost. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 “No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you.” God doesn’t expect us to be thankful for a tragedy.  But we should be thankful for what’s left, not what’s lost. You might be familiar with the saying: “I complained I had no shoes until I met a man who had no legs.”  Let us focus on what is left, not what is lost.

Choose to focus on God’s goodness, because gratitude and depression cannot exist in the same body.