Most people experience anger, the way you apply it make the difference. How do some misuse anger?
Anger is like a small fire, if it is misused and unchecked it can become an inferno. The first spark of anger that could be used for good, if snuffed out, can keep anger from accomplishing its designated purpose. Evaluate whether you could be misusing your anger. Proverbs 29:8 “Mockers stir up a city, but wise men turn away anger.”
Misuses of anger:
- Sustained anger (“simmering stew”)… is held in for a long time. This anger results from an unforgiving heart toward some past offense and offender. Unforgiveness eventually results in a resentment and deep bitterness that harms other relationships. Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”
- Anger pushed down (“pressure cooker”)… is denied or hidden anger. Usually resulting from a fear of facing negative emotions, this kind of anger can create a deceitful heart and lead to untruthfulness with others. Failure to honestly confront and resolve angry feelings can result in self-pity, self-contempt, and self-doubt … ultimately sabotaging most relationships. Somebody might say: “I never get angry … maybe just a little irritated at times.” 1 Peter 3:10 “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.”
- Provoked anger (“short fuse”)… is quick and impatient, instantly irritated or incensed. A testy temper is often expressed with criticism or sarcasm under the guise of teasing. Ecclesiastes 7:9 “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
- Profuse anger (“volatile volcano”)… is powerful, destructive, hard to control. This way of releasing anger is characterised by contempt, violence, and abuse toward others. Jesus gives an ominous warning toward those who demean others … Matthew 5:22 “I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.… But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.”