Anger Cues

The human body has a physical reaction when it experiences anger. These “anger cues” can alert you when you begin to feel angry. Discerning your own anger cues can help you avoid trouble. Likewise, being aware of the signs of anger in others can alert you to appropriately defend yourself, if necessary.  A biblical example of an anger cue is Jonathan’s loss of appetite when he was hurt and grieved over his father’s unjust, shameful treatment toward his close friend David. 1 Samuel 20:34 “Jonathan got up from the table in fierce anger; on that second day of the month he did not eat, because he was grieved at his father’s shameful treatment of David.”

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Decreased appetite, you feel unusually hot or cold, breathing faster and harder, tense muscles, increased respiration, practice silence (shutting down verbally), feel flushed, clench your fists, heart racing and pounding, use language that is inappropriate – harsh – or coarse (sarcasm, gossip), dry mouth, loud – rapid – or high-pitched speech, stomach upset or churning, clench your teeth, twitches or anxious behaviors (tapping pencil, shaking foot, etc.), walk hard and fast or pace back and forth.

Once you have identified your anger cues, you will be in a position to quickly identify when you are angry and then direct your energies to produce a positive outcome.

2 Corinthians 7:11 “See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.”