Many people live life unaware that they have hidden anger – suppressed anger that only occasionally surfaces. While this hidden anger is usually rooted in past childhood hurts, the underlying effects are always ready to surface on the scene. For example, when someone says or does something wrong, the one with suppressed anger often overreacts. When someone makes an innocent mistake, the magnitude of anger is out of proportion to the mistake.
If you have hidden anger, you can find yourself at one extreme or another – from feeling hopeless to feeling hostile – and yet be totally unaware of why you are experiencing these feelings. The Bible makes it clear that some of our motives and emotions are hidden from our own view.
Psalm 19:12 “Who can discern his errors? Forgive my hidden faults.”
The hidden anger cues are:
- Irritability over trivialities.
- You smile on the outside, while you hurt on the inside.
- You find your identity and worth in excessive work.
- You deny ever being impatient.
- You have to have the last word.
- Those close to you say that you blame others.
- You feel emotionally flat.
- You find yourself quickly fatigued.
- You have a loss of interest in life.
- You become easily frustrated.
When you discover that you might have hidden anger in your life, follow the counsel of Colossians 3:8 “You must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”