Anger is one letter short of Danger

The possibility of anger remains ever present. A spark of irritation can be ignited intentionally by hurtful people or even unintentionally by those who love you. God intends that you seek His answer for anger quickly before it singes your heart and burns the bridges of your relationships. 1 Peter 5:8 “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”

anger.is.dangerIf you are in an anger provoking situation ask yourself, if you can change the situation, if not it, release the anger by praying something like this, “Lord, You are sovereign over my life. Since You know everything, You know I feel a strong sense of (hurt, injustice, fear, or frustration) about (name the person or the situation). I release this situation into Your hands. I trust You with my future and with me.” Psalm 143:8 “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul.”

  • Acknowledge Your Anger: Be willing to admit you do have anger. Be aware of when you feel anger. Become aware of suppressing or repressing your anger because of fear. Be willing to take responsibility for any inappropriate anger. Proverbs 28:13 “He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”
  • Analyse Your Style: How often do you feel angry? How do you know when you are angry?      How do others know when you are angry? How do you release your anger? Do you explode, teary-eyed, joke or tease, become sarcastic, criticise, or do you become defensive? Psalm 26:2 “Test me, O Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind.”
  • Assess the Source: Is the source of your anger hurt feelings from the words or actions of others? Is the source of your anger an emotional response to the unjust actions of someone toward another person? Is the source of your anger a feeling of loss or fear? Is the source of your anger frustration because something didn’t go as you planned? 1 Chronicles 29:17 “I know, my God, that you test the heart and are pleased with integrity.”
  • Appraise Your Thinking: Are you expecting others to meet your standards? Are you guilty of distorted thinking? Exaggerating the situation, assuming the worst, labeling one action based on other actions, generalising by saying, “you never” or “you always” Proverbs 21:29 “A wicked man puts up a bold front, but an upright man gives thought to his ways.”
  • Admit Your Needs: Anger is often used as a tactic to get inner needs met. Do you use anger as a manipulative ploy to demand certain “musts” in an attempt to feel loved? Do you use explosive anger to get your way in an attempt to feel significant? Do you use controlling anger, insisting on certain conditions in order to feel secure? Do you know that only Christ can ultimately meet all these needs? Philippians 4:19 “My God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”
  • Abandon Your Demands: Instead of demanding that others meet your inner needs for love, for significance, and for security, learn to look to the Lord to meet your needs. The Lord loves you unconditionally, you are significant in His eyes, you are secure in relationship with the Lord, He will meet your every need. 2 Peter 1:3 “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.”