It will prove helpful to stop and ask yourself some thought-provoking questions each time you experience anger.
Analysing what is going on “behind the scenes” can help move you from subjectivity to objectivity, from being controlled by your anger to benefiting from your anger. As you practice patience and utilise understanding, you will be in a perfect position to use your anger for God’s purposes and prevent it from leading you into sin. Proverbs 14:29 “A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.”
Questions to ask yourself when you experience anger:
- What triggered my anger?
- How am I expressing my anger?
- What are the true inner desires motivating my anger?
- What is my view of God in the midst of this anger-producing situation?
- How should I respond to God and others in the midst of this situation?
- What can I learn from this experience that will help me to handle my anger better in the future?
Proverbs 16:32 “Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.”
As we learn to act, rather than react, and thereby allow God to use our anger to accomplish His purposes, we will be in a position to offer hope for change to others.