To keep your child within the boundaries you have agreed upon sometimes need the application of discipline. Yesterday we mentioned a few “Do’s of Discipline” and today we finishing the list:
- Assign beneficial chores: Chores need to be assigned to everyone in the family. It needs to be explained as benefiting the whole family. It needs to be clearly defined and detailed. Chores need to be compatible with your child’s capabilities. It needs to be given an assigned time for completion, and it needs to be consistently enforced by making sure they are done. “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” (Proverbs 14:23)
- Reinforce positive behaviour: Give your child praise regarding character traits – (“Your room looks great! I’m proud of your faithfulness to finish the job well”). Give your child “thank-you’s” – (“I really appreciate your willingness to bring in the groceries. Thanks for your help”). Give your child recognition in front of others – (“Jim, I wish you had heard the compliments about the way our lawn looked after Peter mowed it”). Give your child attention – (“Lisa, I heard you have learned to dive from the side of the pool. I would love to see you dive”). Give your child respect – (“Chris, I respect your need for privacy. I won’t enter your room without knocking”). Give your child smiles and physical affection – Children need to be lovingly touched by their parents – with plenty of hugs, kisses, squeezes, pats on the back, or a hand on the shoulder. “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
- Maintain consistency: Both parents need to come to an agreement on issues regarding the children, even if they disagree in private. Make only promises you know you can keep. Give careful thought to a request before denying it. Refrain from requiring too many major changes at one time. Evaluate your rules and change them as your child grows. Parents should never question each other’s discipline in front of the child – (If you and your spouse disagree on a method of discipline, discuss the situation in private. Listen to each other share feelings and reasons for or against the correction. Come to an agreement or compromise so that there can be the security of consistency in your child’s life).
Proverbs 24:3–4 “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”