How can Family and Friends Help the Anxious or Fearful

In Judges 6-7 Gideon does exactly what God requires. In time, he refuses to focus on his fear and chooses to step forward in faith. He knows he is not a mighty warrior, but he learns that God can be the warrior within him! It’s not complicated – his supernatural victory comes simply because Gideon walks both fearfully with God by faith … and fearlessly with God by faith.

Sometimes God chooses a specific person – friend or family member – to walk with the one who needs more faith. Just as God told Gideon to take Purah with him into the Midianite camp, fearful people need fearless friends to walk alongside to help them find the road to freedom.

Those who are fearful need a friend … those who are timid need a teammate … those who are worried need someone wise … those who are anxious need an exhorter … those who cower need an encourager. Those who are tormented by fear need inspiration from those who have found freedom from fear.

To support a loved one who is struggling with fear, learn what to do and what not to do. You can very well be that person’s answer to prayer. “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

(Proverbs 18:24)

Friends and Family – What to Do and Not to Do:

·         Don’t become impatient when you don’t understand their fear. But rather try to understand that what fearful people feel is real. “A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.” (Proverbs 14:29)

·         Don’t think they are doing this for attention. But rather realise they are embarrassed and want to change. “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” (Romans 7:15)

·         Don’t be critical or use demeaning statements. But be gentle and supportive, and build up their self-confidence. “Encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

·         Don’t assume you know what is best. Rather ask how you can help. “We urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone.” (1 Thessalonians 5:14)