The Results of a Dysfunctional Family

Dysfunctional families produce another generation of dysfunctional families, because the children of a dysfunctional family learn the pattern and continue with it in his/her own family as a parent.

There are different kinds of Dysfunctional Families, and each of them produces another Dysfunctional Family in its own way:codependent relationship 2

  • The Chaotic Family: In this household everybody as well the household as a whole is poorly organised, and plagued with all kinds of problems.  The parents are inconsistent and indecisive, and the children are emotionally abandoned. This kind of household produces a family who is disconnected from each other. “A man of understanding and knowledge maintains order.” (Proverbs 28:2)
  • The Controlling Family: The structure is overly rigid, the general tone is authoritative and dictatorial, the parents tend to be faultfinding and critical, the children are task-oriented … value is placed on their performance. The result of this kind of family is that family members are fearful and insensitive. “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)
  • The Coddling Family: In this kind of dysfunctional family the parental authority is lacking, feelings are overprotected, disagreements are avoided at all cost, and the children are the center of attention. This results in undisciplined family members. “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13:24)
  • In the Codependent Family the dependence of family members on each other is so heavy that conformity is strong within the family, self-direction of individuals are lacking, the parents are overly possessive, and therefore smother the children. This results to insecure family members. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” (Deuteronomy 6:5)