How to Recover from a Dysfunctional Family(1)

Somehow we have to move on.  We cannot get stuck in a dysfunctional family setup. We have to leave the past behind. “I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” (Philippians 3:13)

heal-dysfunctional-familyWhat to do to Move on from a Dysfunctional Family:

  • Be patient with yourself grieving the past. Ask God to reveal your grief. Be honest about the pain and take time to grieve your past. “I tell you the truth, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy.” (John 16:20)
  • Let go of your need to be in control. Just know that God is ultimately in control. He is the Sovereign God and He is in control. Submit to His will for your life. “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.” (Psalm 55:22)
  • Make Jesus the priority in your heart. Ask Jesus (again) to be in control of your life. Accept the fact that He forgave you and love you. Just know that He is present within you. Let Him lead you in what you say and do. “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.” (Luke 9:23–24)
  • Thank God for your past. Know that God will be faithful to heal you. Recognise that difficult relationships mature you. Look for positive ways God can use the pain in your life. “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)