To be a dysfunctional family can bring all the family members down. It is advisable to do as much as you can to recover from a dysfunctional family and move forward.
What to do to Move on from a Dysfunctional Family:
- Be patient with yourself grieving the past.
- Let go of your need to be in control.
- Make Jesus the priority in your heart.
- Thank God for your past.
- Give attention to how you responded to your circumstances as a child.
- Give thought to your present dysfunctional characteristics.
- Give consideration to your God-given rights.
- Give yourself boundaries. Define who you are: “I am a child of God.” Define who you are not: “I am not a piece of property.” Refuse to be manipulated or mistreated. Stop playing the victim: “As an adult, I am not powerless.” Stop blaming others: “I’ll take responsibility for my own behaviour.” Learn to say no. “Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10)
- Give up resentment. Consider the consequences of unforgiveness. Confess your own areas of unforgiveness. Choose to forgive and keep on choosing to forgive. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
- Give time to restoring healthy family relationships. Be the one to begin rebuilding relationships. Be willing to spend quality time to develop healthy relationships. Be generous with grace toward others whose attitudes and actions are negative. Be a channel of God’s unconditional love and acceptance to others. “If you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” (Matthew 5:23–24)