How Rejection from Other People Influence You (2)

When you experience repeatedly significant rejection by others it becomes a learned response to expect rejection and accordingly think you deserve it.  Many people adjust their lives to rejection and develop all kinds of psychological problems – rejecting themselves. This is also true when you experience any kind of rejection from peers, siblings and people from the society.

1.     Siblings and Peers:

  • Siblings and peers who are overly critical send the message to the person: “I am inferior.”
  • Siblings and peers who are discouraging let the person get the message: “I am hopeless.”
  • Siblings and peers who are pushy send the message to the person: “I am weak.”
  • Siblings and peers who are overly competitive send the message to the person: “I am inept.”

2.     The Society:

  • The society, which is overly competitive, sends the message to the person: “I am insecure.”
  • The society, which is materialistic, sends the message to the person: “I am unimportant.”
  • The society, which put academic or physical limitations on a person, sends the message to the person: “I am insignificant.”
  • The society, which discriminates towards race and gender, sends the message to the person: “I am rejected.”

Some people say: “Because of the way I’ve been treated, I will never feel competent.” But the truth is: Since people fail people, God never intended your competence to come from other people. As you continue to yield your life to the Lord, your competence will come from Him. “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.” (2 Corinthians 3:5)