Self-Worth Perils: Comparing Yourself to Others

Has comparing yourself to others become so automatic that you hardly notice you’re doing it? People often compare themselves to others in appearance, abilities, affluence, and accomplishments.

When a child has been compared with other siblings by parents or other significant people, and they verbally let the child know that (s)he did not measure up, it creates fertile ground for the child to compare him/herself to others.  Doesn’t matter how severe the emotional abuse might be, God has a plan for the child, and He will work out His purpose. The Bible makes this clear …“In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will.” (Ephesians 1:11)

To compare yourself to others might become part of your self-talk when it comes to:

  • Appearance: “I am not as attractive as.”  “I cannot dress as nicely as.” “I am not as graceful or suave as.”
  • Abilities: “I am not as athletic/popular/smart as.”
  • Affluence: “I am not as financially secure as.” “I don’t have a home as nice as.” “I am not as influential as.”
  • Accomplishments: “I don’t have as many degrees as.” “I am not as gifted as.” “I am not as accomplished as.”

Some people are saying: “I’ll never be able to stop comparing myself to others.” This is not true because life is a series of choices, and while you may feel that you cannot change, God would not instruct you to do something without giving you the power to do it. God says if you compare yourself to others, you are not wise. “When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” 2 Corinthians 10:12