As an adult you have the choice to align with the way God sees you and not how authority figures and peers sometimes degraded you in the past. You are now able to choose those with whom you associate, and control your self-talk. Therefore, you can take an active part in changing the distorted view you have of yourself.
What are the steps to Self-Worth?
- Accept yourself. Stop striving for perfection or trying to be like someone else. Realise that the Lord made you for a purpose, and He designed your personality and gave you the gifts and abilities He wanted you to have in order to accomplish His purpose for you. “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” (Proverbs 19:21)
- Thank God for encouraging you. Acknowledge and praise God for the abilities He has given you and the things He has accomplished through you. Engage in Biblically-based, encouraging self-talk and mute the condemning critic inside your head. “May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word.” (2 Thessalonians 2:16–17)
- Accept the compliments of others. To discount the positive comments of those who have heartfelt appreciation for you is to discount their opinions and their desire to express their gratitude to you. Practice graciously accepting compliments and turning them into praise to God for the affirmation that He is at work in you and producing good “fruit” through you. “This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.” (John 15:8)