The past does not control you, you are able to choose those with whom you associate, and control your self-talk. Therefore, you can take an active part in changing the distorted view you have of yourself.
Ways to change your self-worth:
4. Release the negative past and focus on a positive future. Refuse to dwell on negative things said or done to you in the past and release them to God. Embrace the work God is doing in your life now and cooperate with him by focusing on Him and on His character. Trust in His promise to fulfill His purposes in you. “It is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” (Philippians 2:13)
5. Live in God’s forgiveness. God has extended forgiveness to you for all of your sins. Confess and repent of anything offensive to God. Do not set yourself up as a higher judge than God by refusing to forgive yourself. Lay harsh judgment of yourself aside and accept that you will not be made “fully perfect” and totally without sin until you stand in the presence of Christ and are fully conformed to His image. “We are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when he appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is. Everyone who has this hope in him purifies himself, just as he is pure.” (1 John 3:2–3)
6. Benefit from your mistakes. Realise that you can learn from your mistakes, as well as from the mistakes of others, and decide to view your mistakes as opportunities to learn needed lessons. Ask God what He wants to teach you from your mistakes, listen to Him, and learn from Him. Then move forward with a positive attitude and practice actions based on the insights you have gained. “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
7. Form supportive, positive relationships. Realise that critical people are people who experience hurt themselves and then project their own feelings of inadequacy onto others in an attempt to ease their own emotional pain. Minimise the time you spend with negative, critical people, whether family, friends, or coworkers, and seek out those who encourage and support you both emotionally and spiritually. “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)