Some types of rejection can cut like a knife and pierce like an arrow to the heart. Rejection is present in everyday life and common to all of us. While we may have had our feelings hurt or our egos wounded, it didn’t last long and left no permanent scars, though some types of rejection can cut like a knife and pierce like an arrow to the heart.. “Not a word from their mouth can be trusted; their heart is filled with destruction. Their throat is an open grave; with their tongue they speak deceit.” (Psalm 5:9)
Examples of overt, Abusive Rejection:
The parent who deserts the family; A parent who tells a child, “I wish you had never been born;” “You are a disgrace to this family;” “You’re just like your sorry father;” “I wish you were like your brother;” “You will never amount to anything;” “You were a mistake … You were an accident … You were the wrong gender.”
Examples of covert, Abusive Rejection:
The parent who constantly “raises the bar” with excessive requirements; who demands more than the child is capable of giving; who withholds love; who overindulges; who overprotects; who divorces; who commits suicide.