Words are the Bullets of Verbal Abusers

Words spoken are like the paste of toothpaste out of the tube, once the words are out it is kind of impossible to put it back. Verbal abuse damaging the soul and hurting a relationship, you can’t wash them away or clean up their residue. Their effects may linger forever, causing permanent scars of sorrow on the heart of another person. God hears and judges your every word as it spills out from the overflow of your heart!

“How can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matthew 12:34–37)

  • Words that are good do not come from the mouths of those who are evil. Matthew 12:34
  • Out of the overflow of your heart come the words you say – Matthew 12:34
  • Righteousness flows from good that is stored in your heart – Matthew 12:35
  • Deeds of evil are stored in the heart of one who is evil – Matthew 12:35
  • Spoken words said in carelessness will bring condemnation on those who will be held accountable on the day of judgment – Matthew 12:36–37

Abuse occurs when one person repeatedly interacts with another person in an unloving manner. Abuse violates the way God tells us to love one another. The best description of love is found in 1 Corinthians 13, often called “The Love Chapter.” If you wonder whether you are being verbally abused, write out the exact words spoken to you and ask yourself …

  • “How does this make me feel?”
  • “Does this sound like a conversation between friends?”
  • “Would Jesus speak to me in this way?”
  • “If I said these words, how would the other person react?”

Compare the words spoken to you with 1 Corinthians 13:4–8 this is God’s definition of love and the standard He has set for us.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4–8)