The dynamic of Verbal and Emotional Abuse can be defused with hard, consistent work, progress can be made … change can occur … and victory can be achieved. Verbal and Emotional abusers’ insensitive attacks come from a heart that suffers from emotional deficits originating in the past and from their choice to respond to those deficits by abusing others.
How to have Victory over Verbal and Emotional Abuse:
- Face the Problem.
- Understand the Source of the Problem.
- Confront the Problem.
4. Take Responsibility for Yourself.
- Resist becoming defensive.
- Resist retreating into a shell.
- Resist playing the familiar “victim-martyr” role.
- Resist seeking retaliation.
“Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:17–18)
5. View the Abusive Person from God’s Perspective.
- See the person as someone for whom Christ died.
- See the person as having God-given worth.
- See the person as capable of being changed by Christ.
- See the person as having legitimate God-given needs that God is willing to meet.
“My God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)
6. Love Unconditionally.
- Love is not a feeling, but a commitment to do what is right.
- Love looks for ways to meet the needs of another.
- Love seeks to do what is in the best interest of another.
- Love says, “I care enough about our relationship to work to make it a positive one.”
“Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all wrongs.” (Proverbs 10:12)
7. Practice a Powerful Prayer Life.
- Remember that God cares about both of you more than you care about each other.
- Remember that prayer is the surest path to healing and wholeness.
- Remember that you need to pray for healing for both you and your abuser.
- Remember to thank God for all that He is teaching you in the midst of this trying time.
“Pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17–18)