The Healing Process from Verbal and Emotional Abuse (2)

The path to healing is a process that takes time. Ask God to help you take the following actions toward healing:

  • Address your legitimate emotional needs. Understand that you have three God-given needs – the need for love, for significance, and for security. Understand that proper self-esteem comes from viewing yourself through God’s eyes. Understand that God never withholds His love from you, though you may not have sensed that you were loved by your parents and/or your spouse. “You are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love.” (Nehemiah 9:17)
  • Pay attention to your own feelings and perceptions. See the abuse for what it is … actual abuse! Know that you’re not going crazy. If you felt abused, acknowledge that what happened is unacceptable. “You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)
  • Clear your mind of confusion. Realise that you have been a victim of confusing, mixed messages. Seek help from a safe, trustworthy person to sort through the confusing words and to distinguish the truth from the lies. Refuse to be confused if the abuser reverses the blame by putting it on you or counters what you are saying. “God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33 ESV)