The Healing Process from Verbal and Emotional Abuse (3)

The path to healing is a process that takes time. Ask God to help you take the following actions toward healing:

  • Give your heart to the Lord, allowing Him to be your Deliverer.
  • Know that you are never alone.
  • Search for truth.
  • Address your legitimate emotional needs.
  • Pay attention to your own feelings and perceptions.
  • Clear your mind of confusion.
  • Acknowledge your negative feelings. Make a list of any negative feelings such as anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, hate, or revenge. Be honest with God about these feelings—He knows you have them, and He understands why. Ask God to cleanse you from unhealthy, negative feelings and attitudes. “Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.” (Psalm 51:7)

  • Forgive your abuser. List each offense committed against you by each abuser. Release each offense and the pain it caused into the hands of God. Choose, as an act of your will, to release each abuser to God for His judgment. “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
  • Allow yourself to grieve. Write down all the losses that have occurred in your life. Allow yourself time to grieve. Weep by yourself or with a friend. Write the word “finished” beside each painful memory. “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven … a time to mourn and a time to dance.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4)
  • Realise that healing is a process … not an event. Refuse to seek quick fixes and painless solutions. Develop an understanding of the activities that promote healing. Grow in patience as you embrace the “journey” of the healing process. “As an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. As you know, we consider blessed those who have persevered.” (James 5:10–11)