Recovery after the experience of verbal and emotional abuse is a process that occurs over time and is a result of hard, but productive work. Rarely is it accomplished in a moment or in a single experience.
A summary of practical insights and suggested solutions for recovery:
- Recognise that you are powerless to heal the damaged emotions resulting from abuse, and look to God for the power to make you whole.
- Acknowledge that God’s plan for your life includes victory over the experience of abuse.
- The person who abused you is responsible for the acts committed against you and for the words spoken to you. Don’t accept the guilt and the shame resulting from those acts or words.
- Looking to God and His Word to find your identity as a worthwhile and loved human being.
- Share your feelings with God and with at least one other person as you try to identify those areas needing cleansing and healing.
- Accept responsibility for your responses to the abuse.
- Be willing to accept God’s help in the decision to forgive yourself and those who have offended you and to trust Him in the process of doing so.
- Be willing to mature in your relationship with God and as a result, with others.
- Be ready and willing to be used by God as an instrument of His healing and restoration in the lives of others.
“You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever.” Psalm 30:11–12