Nothing can ravage your heart like rejection. The most penetrating wound is the painful rejection of a loved one. You feel devastated when someone dear to your heart or even anybody deserts you. Rejection chips away at your self-image … chisels down your confidence … and challenges your hope. Meanwhile, the memory of your loved one lingers on and on in the recesses of your mind, repeating – through whispers and shouts – those haunting messages: “You are unwelcome… You are unworthy.”


Is your heart broken and/or your spirit crushed? Nothing is more healing than to know that the Lord loves you unconditionally… He accepts you eternally. When your pain seems endless and your heart is tender to the touch, continue to put yourself into His compassionate hands. He will hold you with His heart of love until there is true healing … for, “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18) Favouritism can be extremely painful.

Favouritism of one creates rejection of the other. Children catch on quickly when there is a “favourite” in the family. The favoured child often comes late in life – late like young Joseph in the Bible, the beloved son of Jacob. In his heart, the father not only favours Joseph over his ten brothers, but also flaunts his favouritism by giving Joseph the infamous “coat of many colors” – a coat Jacob himself has made! Meanwhile, the older brothers seethe with anger at the sight of this richly ornamented robe, which has now become a symbol of their father’s painful rejection. Little did Jacob know that his own favouritism would be the breeding ground for jealousy – the spark that would create a climate of hurt, hostility, and lasting hatred. “Now Israel [Jacob] loved Joseph more than any of his other sons, because he had been born to him in his old age; and he made a richly ornamented robe for him. When his brothers saw that their father loved him more than any of them, they hated him and could not speak a kind word to him.” (Genesis 37:3–4)