Inner Symptoms of Rejection

What are the ramifications of rejection? Perhaps you’ve been unaware of its subtle impact on your soul (your mind, will, and emotions). One obvious assault that rejection makes on your soul is an altering of your own self-perception and the inevitable insecurities that seem to arise out of nowhere when someone painfully turns away from you. That rejection can sear the deepest part of your soul and at the same time “mess with” your mind, taint your thoughts … and make you question your ability to function normally. But God, who knows every rejection you will ever encounter, never planned for you to be emotionally or spiritually disabled. Although you will be rejected, the Bible says, “God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” (2 Corinthians 9:8)

The following are many of the classic symptoms of those who have been rejected in the past and as a result have a fear of future rejection.

  • Ambivalence: “I have difficulty making decisions – if I make the wrong decision, I could be rejected.”
  • Anxiety: “I have real apprehension when someone says, ‘Trust me.’ ”
  • Bitterness: “I harbour bitterness toward those who rejected me … and toward God, who allowed it to happen.”
  • Depression: “My heart feels so heavy – the pain has pushed me down.”
  • Distrust: “I can’t really trust others not to desert me.”
  • Escapism: “Life hurts.… I just need to numb the pain.”
  • Fear: “I live in fear of being rejected again.”
  • Flat emotions: “My heart is so deeply hurt that I can’t seem to feel excited about anything.”
  • Guilt/false guilt: “I feel so bad about myself—no wonder I was rejected.”
  • Inability to accept love: “Even if others say that they love me, I know it’s not true.”
  • Inferiority: “I know I’ll never measure up!”
  • Insensitivity: “I can’t feel for others who are in pain.”
  • Introspective: “I’ve got to keep analyzing what’s wrong with me.”
  • Low self-worth: “I know I’m not worthy of being accepted.”
  • Resignation: “Whatever will be, will be … so why try?”
  • Self-condemnation: “I feel terrible. I know I’m to blame whenever I’m rejected.”
  • Self-pity: “I’m always ignored.… No one reaches out to me.”
  • Self-rejection: “I wish I’d never been born!”
  • Withdrawal: “I’m not willing to be vulnerable again.”
  • Worry: “I’m afraid I’ll be scarred for life.”