External Signs of Rejection

The unseen pain of rejection can sabotage your soul and shatter your spirit; however, the external signs of rejection are easily seen and even felt by others. When someone special walks out of your life, the joy of living is snuffed out … like having a wet towel thrown on a lit candle. The darkness of desertion can discolour your perception of others and do untold damage to your relationships. The saddest part of it all is that rejection breeds rejection! In truth, no one can avoid being rejected or treated unjustly at times. However, when you remember that your identity is in the Lord, because of your relationship with Him – not in your having been rejected by others – you will experience the truth that you, like Paul, can be …“… hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” (2 Corinthians 4:8–9)


Some of the External Signs of Rejection are …

  • Abuse – mistreating others and even yourself
  • Addiction – seeking solace in addictive behaviour in an effort to numb your pain
  • Anger – feeling bitterness toward others and even toward God
  • Apathy – giving up on life – not caring about anything
  • Arrogance – acting superior to others
  • Competitive – assuming, I have to be the best
  • Critical spirit – being condescending toward others
  • Defensive – arguing with others for self-protection
  • Dominant – controlling others and situations to an excess
  • Exaggeration – bragging to impress others
  • Hatred – loathing (primarily directed toward yourself)
  • Isolation – becoming a loner as a means of self-protection
  • Jealousy – resenting suggestions and successes of others
  • Legalism – complying with rigid rules based on black-and-white thinking
  • People pleasing – trying too hard to please others
  • Perfectionism – feeling like a failure unless you do everything perfectly
  • Performance-based acceptance – believing your acceptance is based only on how well you perform
  • Rebellion – resisting the authority of others
  • Subservient – cowering in the presence of others
  • Undisciplined – lacking self-control and boundaries around others
  • Vengeful – getting even with others