Thoughts, Feelings, and Vows of Rejection

When you experienced painful rejection in the past, do you remember rehearsing repeated thoughts, feelings, and perhaps even “vows”? Unfortunately, these repetitious thoughts (I’m not accepted.) and emotions (I feel unwanted.) lead to an illogical conclusion (I vow that no one will hurt me again!). How we live our lives is based on what we believe. Therefore, if we believe we are rejected, we will live a life of rejection in our minds, our hearts, and our emotions, even when we are not outwardly rejected by others.

Repeated Thoughts:




Repeated Feelings:




Repeated Vows:


  • “No one loves me.”



  • “I feel empty inside.”



  • “I’m not going to get close to anyone again.”


  • “No one cares about me.”


  • “I feel all alone.”


  • “I don’t really matter.”



  • “I feel insignificant.”



  • “I’m not going to let anyone be important to me again.”


  • “I’m not good enough.”


  • “I feel like I’m not worth anything.”


  • “I don’t fit in.”



  • “I feel unwanted.”



  • “No one will ever hurt me again.”


  • “I’m not accepted.”


  • “I feel excluded.”


This progression demonstrates the importance of taking your thoughts captive … training your mind … telling yourself the truth. You are accepted by God; therefore, allow Him to heal your heart from the pain of the past. If you will cancel the vows that are contrary to God’s Word, you will experience perfect peace in your life. “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)