Steps to Overcome Rejection (1)

Admit the rejection of the past and acknowledge its pain.

  • Ask God to bring to mind every rejection from your childhood to the present, and then consider the circumstances of each situation.
  • Acknowledge the gamut of feelings of rejection you experienced with each past event. Release the pain and the person(s) involved to God.
  • Ask God to heal the physical, emotional, and spiritual damage of each of these painful experiences of rejection.

“I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me. Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:19–23)

Claim God’s acceptance and unconditional love.

  • Confess God’s love for you and the various ways He has shown you His love (for example, Christ’s death for you).
  • Cite Psalm 139:1–18 and praise God for orchestrating your conception, forming you in your mother’s womb, and planning each day of your life.
  • Convey your appreciation to God for His love of you by loving Him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. And love others as He loves you.

“ ‘Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you.” (Isaiah 54:10)

Choose to forgive those who rejected you.

  • Consider all the hurt and anger you feel over your painful rejection.
  • Count the cost of withholding forgiveness: a bitter spirit building up inside you, which will cause trouble and spread to those around you.
  • Commit to forgiving those who rejected you just as Christ forgave those who rejected Him (including you). Write down their names, their offenses, and the pain these individuals caused you. Then release each person, offense, and pain to God.

“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)