Because we have all been rejected, we all long to be accepted. Instead of focusing on our fear of rejection, we need to focus on reaching out to others, regardless of our differences. We respond positively when we find that others are interested in us. Think about it – when someone genuinely wants to know more about you, doesn’t that warm your heart? We can be like closed rosebuds that blossom into full bloom when we meet someone who sincerely accepts us.
Focus on the other person and not you personal needs of acceptance. If you want to reach out to others, but don’t know where to start, begin with ordinary questions. Your heartfelt interest will build a bridge to further communication. Ease into the questions gradually. As you talk with someone whom you don’t know well, you could say, “I’ve never heard you talk about your childhood. Where did you grow up? What was it like living there? What was the most character-building experience of your childhood?” People will be interested in you when you are interested in them.
The Bible poetically emphasises well-spoken words …“A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” (Proverbs 25:11)