How to Help Those who Reject

All people will occasionally do what is wrong and afterward repent. To reject those who show remorse and who demonstrate true repentance is unproductive and unkind. Instead, we need to seek to build up a struggling person with compassion, truth, and encouragement.



  • Reach out with compassion, recognising that everyone (including you) has made awful mistakes in various ways.
  • Pray for God to give you a gentle, nonjudgmental heart as you try to bring others to restoration. “If someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently.” (Galatians 6:1)


  • Help surface the lies that they have believed and exchange each lie with truth.
  • Suggest a positive plan with practical action steps in order to break free of the habit. “You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)


  • Affirm their God-given worth as they choose to live in the strength of Christ.
  • Praise them when they make small steps toward Christ-like behaviour. “Encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)