What if I Deserve Rejection?

If we engage in anything that grieves the heart of God, someone could rightly reject us. If a relationship is forbidden by God (such as adultery), ending that relationship is the right thing to do. Any attempt to continue the relationship needs to be rejected. If you are experiencing the piercing pain of having been rejected only because that relationship was not right in God’s sight, you can still hope for a bright tomorrow despite your despair today. God sees your hurt and feels compassion for you, even if your painful circumstances are a result of your own bad choices. Learning from your mistakes and allowing God to change your life is still possible. God has always been in the business of rescuing people from the grip of sinful behavioural patterns and turning their lives into blessings.


  • Acknowledge to God the sinful behaviour that led to your being rejected. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
  • Ask God to bring you to the point of seeing your sin as He sees it. “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23–24)
  • Agree with God that your behavior was egregious to Him and deserving of His disapproval and discipline. “For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge.” (Psalm 51:3–4)
  • Assume the responsibility of asking forgiveness from the person(s) you have offended. “If you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” (Matthew 5:23–24)