Characteristics of a Distressed Marriage (2)

2. A Marriage in which Sexual Difficulties are Ignored.

The maladjusted marriage is sexually maladjusted and is not experiencing the unique expression of spiritual and physical “oneness.” God’s design is that both partners, as an act of love, yield their bodies to one another. True sexual fulfillment comes through seeking to provide pleasure to the other.

  • Frigidity may be caused by fear, psychological problems, sexual abuse, or guilt.
  • Impatience in marriage may be a sign of insensitivity and/or selfishness.
  • Infidelity might happen where the spouses have unrealistic expectations and/or pornography is a problem to one or both spouses.
  • Fatigue might be the result of excessive busyness and/or overcommitment.
  • Denial is the result of manipulation, anger, and/or unforgiveness.

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:3–4)

3. A Marriage burdened with Financial Difficulties and Disagreements

  • Who will earn the family income?
  • Who will control the money?
  • How will the family money be spent?
  • How much money will be given to the church?
  • Should we use credit cards?
  • What do we do when credit cards are misused?
  • Do we really need to have a budget?
  • What happens when there isn’t enough money for essentials?

Conflicting answers to these questions and other financial difficulties can result in a couple’s developing an unhealthy focus on money and material needs. God desires that a marriage be free of an emphasis on money by trusting Him for financial security.

“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’ ” (Hebrews 13:5)