Your Attitude can Change You and Others

Our attitude determines our approach to life – Our attitude determines our relationship with people. Our attitude is the only difference between success and failure.

My attitude towards a person in business influenced the outcome of success. Afterwards I was wondering, what could I have done more to make it more efficient?

Our attitude at the beginning of a task will affect its outcome more than anything else.

Our attitude can turn our problems into blessings.

Our attitude can give us an uncommonly positive perspective.

The foundations of our attitude is laid out in the environment, therefore make wise choices where you work, and with surroundings you allow you to be within. Environment becomes even more significant when we realise that the beginning attitudes are the most difficult to change.

How we see ourselves reflects how others see us.

Surround yourselves with positive people. Others can stop you temporarily, but you are the only one who can do it permanently.

We are either the masters or the victims of our attitudes. It is a matter of personal choice. Who we are today is the result of choices we made yesterday. Tomorrow we will become what we choose today. To change means to choose change. There are eight choices we need to make to change our attitude.

  • Evaluate your present attitudes. The goal of this exercise is not to see the “bad you” but the bad attitude that keeps you from being a more fulfilled person.
  • Realise that faith is stronger than fear. The only thing that will guarantee the success of a doubtful undertaking is the faith from the beginning that you can do it.
  • Write a statement of purpose. In order to have fun and direction in changing your attitude, you must establish a clearly stated goal. This goal should be as specific as possible, written out, and signed with a time frame attached to it.
  • Have the desire to change. No choice will determine the success of your attitude change more than desiring to change. When all else fails, desire alone can keep you heading in the right direction.
  • Live one day at a time. It is not the experiences of today that drive men to distraction; it is the remorse or bitterness for something that happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Let us therefore live but one day at a time, today!
  • Change your thought patterns. What holds our attention determines our actions. We are where we are and what we are because of the dominating thoughts that occupy our minds. Our thought lives, not our circumstances, determine our happiness.
  • Develop good habits. Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thought. Habits aren’t instincts; they’re acquired action or reactions. They don’t just happen; they are caused.
  • Continually choose to have a right attitude. Once you make the choice to possess a good attitude, the work really begins. Now comes a life of continually deciding to grow and maintain the right outlook. Attitudes have a tendency to revert back to their original patterns if not carefully guarded and cultivated.

Adjusted from John Maxwell.